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A mother-to-be is locked in a bitter dispute with her in-laws after she refused to name her child inline with a 160-year-old tradition.

The 26-year-old woman, who hasn’t been named, is expecting her first child with her fiancée, 28-year-old John, and the pair have been discussing names.

But John’s family have a tradition which has stood since 1860, when his family were freed from slavery and the next born child, a girl, was named ‘freedom’.

Since then, every girl has been named in a similar fashion, with ‘Desire’, ‘Confidence’, and ‘Destiny’ making appearances on the family tree.

But the woman said she refused to name her child in the same fashion, and wanted to stick to a traditional name.

Sharing the debacle on Reddit, she posted: “So I (26f) am engaged to John (28m). I’m super close with his family and he is with mine. I am also six months pregnant.

“Here’s the issue: John’s family has the weird tradition of naming the girls things like ‘Desire’, ‘Confidence’, ‘Wisdom’, etc.

“John’s sister is literally called Destiny and her daughters are called Inspiration and Courage. (I’m not making these up). The boys have super normal names.

“Both John and I really want a girl, but I don’t want to give her a name that fits with the ones previously mentioned.

“I brought this up to John’s family at a dinner party and they all got super upset – they said this tradition was coined all the way back in the 1860s when their family became free.

“Apparently the first female in their family that was born free after 1860 was literally called Freedom – and so a tradition was born.

“They’re putting a lot of pressure on me to pick a name that fits with theirs. John says that it means a lot to him, too.”

After posting her situation and asking for advice, other Reddit users stepped forward to share their opinion.

One wrote: “You both get a say in naming. Is there any middle ground here?

“There are some names that are words with meanings but also sound like normal names – Joy, Grace, Hope, Charity, Destiny.

“If none of those vibe with you, maybe they would be ok with a more traditional name that carries a similar meaning? Or there is always the middle name.”